Are you in a happy relationship?
Whether you’re single, committed, betrothed or married, it’s safe to assume that we all crave happiness in a relationship because, well, that’s what it’s all about right? It’s no secret that a good relationship can in fact bring out the best in some people and of course make them much happier, whereas a bad relationship can have the adverse effect and ultimately, damage a person. However, no matter who you are, where you are, or what you do, we all deserve happiness in a relationship. That’s right, we DESERVE it, but what creates this happiness? You’ve guessed it, it’s the things we deserve from a healthy relationship.
Here are 20 things I believe we ALL DESERVE in a relationship
Someone who is always excited to see you
After a good few years of being in a relationship with someone, you may not class yourself as still being in the ‘honeymoon period’ but you should still be happy to see them when you come in from work. EVEN if you’re in a bad mood, your partner should excite you and make you feel better.
Someone who is passionate
Let’s face it, whether you’re 17 or 70, passionate kissing and spontaneous sex is a lot of fun! Sure, in some cases, as relationships progress, it doesn’t happen at often, but it should still happen.
Spontaneous kisses and passionate sex are a lot of fun. Even if it doesn’t happen often, you should know that your partner loves you and finds you irresistible.
Someone who will listen to you vent
The new girl in the office is terrible at her job, and your partner is happy to listen to you vent about this for three hours. Instead of telling you to be quiet, they smile with understanding and pass you a cup of coffee–because they know you will do the same for them when they have a hard day.
Someone who is intimate with you
From holding hands to sharing secret looks, your partner should be physically intimate with you as well as emotionally intimate.
Someone who openly communicates
Communication is one of the most important things in a relationship, and you and your partner should both feel like you can openly discuss anything with each other without fear of being dismissed.
Someone to stay up late with
From staying out drinking to sitting up outside gazing at stars, every once in a while your partner should make you want to stay up so you can enjoy the world and have fun.
Someone who makes you laugh
Your partner may have a totally different sense of humor than you, but they should still make you laugh and smile. Loving someone means wanting to see them happy, so a happy relationship is normally filled with side-splitting laughter and silly inside jokes.
Someone who cheers you on
In a great relationship, both partners are each other’s cheerleaders, cheering each other on with every decision they make. It can be tough living without support, and your partner should offer you unlimited support.
Someone who you can mutually trust
Your partner shouldn’t worry that you will cheat on them, or that you will take all the money from your joint bank account. You love each other and support each other, and trust is an essential part of that.
Someone who respects you
In a good relationship, both partners admire and respect each other. After all, you chose to commit to them so you must think they are pretty awesome.
Someone to go on adventures with
The world is filled with interesting places, from the places you haven’t explored in your town to other countries. A happy relationship involves two people who want to share new experiences and adventures with each other, not people who hold each other back and keep each other inside.
Someone who gives you security
An important part of a happy relationship is being able to rely on your partner. You should be able to be able to have a bad day where you feel upset or angry without fearing that your partner will leave you.
Someone who challenges you
In a happy relationship both partners look up to each other and admire each other. Instead of bringing each other down, you deserve to feel challenged by each other, and to open each other’s minds to new ideas and concepts.
Someone who’s got your back
From sneaking alcohol into the cinema to covering for you when you lie to your mom and say you can’t come over because you’re ill, your partner should always be your partner in crime.
Someone who offers you freedom
In a healthy relationship, both partners understand that they both need freedom and space from each other to see other people and do their own thing.
Someone who stands up for you
After a long, hard day, you may struggle to stick up for yourself. But if you’re in a happy relationship, your partner should always be in your corner.
Someone who makes small gestures
Little gestures like cooking your favorite meals or making you a homemade birthday cards, show that you love each other. These little gestures show your partner that you think about them all the time, and that you know and love them for who they are.
Someone who offers understanding
Maybe you cry whenever you watch romantic comedies, and maybe you like to dip your chips in melted chocolate–if so, your partner should understand that. Even if they don’t want to do it with you, they should understand that you are your own person with your own quirks. They should love you for every little quirk.
Someone to be silly with
Life is hard, and it is important that your partner is someone who you can let go and be silly with. From dancing in the kitchen as you cook to play-fighting, you should be able to relax and have fun with your partner even when times are hard.
Someone you can call your best friend
Your partner should be more than your lover; they should be your best friend, strengthening your bond and loving you unconditionally.
So, have I missed anything? What do YOU think we all DESERVE in a relationship?